It was 10 p.m. After a long day at work, Minghui was lying on the bed but couldn’t sleep. Her neighbor’s words this afternoon came to her mind: “Minghui, I’ve seen your father-in-law give his bank card and payroll card to your elder brother-in-law.” On hearing that, she thought serenely: Those are Father-in-law’s, so it’s his call. But now, she grew more and more angry: Isn’t my husband their son? Why do my in-laws always favor their elder son over us? Fighting for house property many years, I just got 10,000 yuan. But now, they give the bank card and payroll card to their elder son. Elder brother and his wife doesn’t work but are afforded parents’ special treatment. My husband and I worked hard but didn’t get their care… It really wound her up when she recalled these matters. Minghui felt so suppressed that she was in torment. She was dying to go seek justice.
Over a decade ago, Minghui’s husband had a car accident before their marriage. Unfortunately, he had a disability of his legs. In addition to 19,000 yuan paid by the driver, her in-laws spent another 24,000-yuan buying this house where the whole family lived. So competitive was she that she ran business like crazy with her husband after marriage, while her elder brother-in-law couple didn’t do anything but played mah-jongg all day long. But her in-laws turned a blind eye to them, sometimes, and even took their side. Minghui was fed up with them, so she decided to buy another house to move out.
She never forgot what happened during her pregnancy. One day, she and her husband were tired and hungry after work. She thought she would eat hot food on getting home and take a break. It never occurred to her that Father-in-law, and brother-in-law couple were playing mah-jongg, and Mother-in-law stood watching them. She became extremely angry when she saw it, thinking: I, sporting a baby bump, have to work with my husband to support the family, while they even don’t make dinner. Why do they always treat us like this? Minghui nagged her mother-in-law with anger. And then brother-in-law beat her and warned her not to nag mother. From then on, Minghui had a grudge against her brother-in-law and never forgave him.
When her in-laws knew her couple were ready to buy another house, they wanted to leave this house to her brother-in-law. Minghui choked with rage: What? How can such a thing be possible? Almost half of the property belongs to us. Brother couple didn’t spend a dime buying this house. They want this house? No way! Minghui was very dissatisfied with this decision and felt that their parents played favorites with their elder son. She couldn’t let it go so she made up her mind: Never move out even if I buy a new house. They fell out for couple of days, but went nowhere. Because Minghui refused to give around, Father-in-law said that they must offer 60,000 yuan if they still wanted this house. Minghui couple were strapped for cash because they bought a new house not long ago. Now, Father-in-law came up with such steep condition to plainly make her give in. Minghui asked for 30,000 yuan if they moved out. But, her father-in-law said: “You’ve got to move out, whether you wanna or not! Or else, I’ll lock your door!” Fight for this house, Minghui was on bad terms with her family.
After two years, in-laws offered Minghui 10,000 yuan and asked them to move out, but the property price was about 80,000 yuan. She and her husband worked before dawn and after dark to buy a new house. Why could her brother-in-law get this house without any efforts, much less half the money was her husband’s damages in car accident? Minghui was reluctant to accept it, feeling it was unfair. In addition, the neighbor gave a support to Minghui, so she felt all the more that it was her in-laws’ fault. They not only had been at war with each other, but also gave each other the silent treatment. They became enemies. Later, Minghui couldn’t put up with living together with them, so she accepted 10,000 yuan from parents. From then on, she was keeping her in-laws at arm’s length.
In late 2010, Minghui was so honored to accept the gospel of God’s kingdom. By reading God’s words and fellowshiping with brothers and sisters, Minghui saw that all the brothers and sisters were purely open and got along with each other without any trouble and worry. Whatever difficulties they have in life, they could help each other and all wear a smile. Minghui genuinely yearned for such life. Compared with them, she had no idea why she lived in such pain. Later, she read , “Before he was corrupted by Satan, man naturally followed God and obeyed His words. He was naturally of sound sense and conscience, and of normal humanity. After being corrupted by Satan, his original sense, conscience, and humanity grew dull and were impaired by Satan…” (“To Have an Unchanged Disposition Is to Be in Enmity to God”). After reading these words, she was in for a rude awakening: her pain comes from Satan’s corruption. Man should be of sense and conscience, but after being corrupted by Satan, his original sense and conscience has gone. Living by corrupt satanic disposition for generation after generation, man is so selfish and despicable, only interested in personal gain and considering his own profit. Still more, everyone likes to take advantage of others and has their own ulterior motives for everything, which causes people cannot get along with each other. Even in a family, they still get into a fight for selfish gain and become deadly enemies. At this moment, Minghui thought: Many years she and her family led a resentful life because they were selfish and base, fighting for their own interests. Brother-in-law thought they should occupy this old house because Minghui had a new one. And her in-laws took brother’s side when Minghui argued with them. However, Minghui believed that this old house should belong to them because of her husband’s damages from car accident. Hence, they had been fighting for over decade and neither of them backed down. Minghui came to realize: Living in this world Satan rules, man can’t relate well to each other. Without , she can’t escape from suffering. She was eager to get along famously with family and lead a normal life. Then, Minghui attended meetings actively, reading God’s words and pursing the truth.
One day, she read a passage of words in “Fellowship and Preaching About Life Entry”, “Normal humanity includes these aspects: conscience, sense, character and dignity … tolerance, patience, forgiveness, love, giving, kindness, benevolence, filial piety, forbearance, consideration, empathy and care… At this time, you will discover that you do not have humanity, and your humanity is flawed. You aren’t even possessed of normal humanity. You thought you were a good man and could get along well with everyone. But now, you find that you can’t relate well to anyone. No wonder you often fight with your partner, fight with your children, fight with your parents-in-law, and even fight with everyone else. You always quarrel with others, never ending. And then you’ll find the root of the problem is that you’re without normal humanity.” After reading, Minghui remembered that the reason why her brother-in-law once beat her is that she didn’t respect her in-laws. She shouldn’t resent him as she indeed did something wrong. Besides, though her brother-in-law had no decent work, he was also our family member. Her in-laws didn’t have the heart to watch their son have nowhere to live, so they wanted to leave the old house to brother. This was human nature. But she didn’t stand in their shoes — to understand parents’ concern for children, to consider brother-in-law couple’s situation. She realized that she only took her interests into account. To get this house, she would rather stay with them than move to the new house. Many years, Minghui thought she was unjustly treated. But now, she came to know that she was always living by Satan’s life principle, “Fight for every inch of land and seize every bit you can get”. To protect her profit, she wouldn’t give an inch. When her family were unkind to her, she wanted to go tit for tat and treated them as enemies. Because of the property, she cut loose from old ties. When seeing that she had been playing a seamy role these years, Minghui gradually let go of grudges against her family.
Minghui thought she has got over the grudges of the past, but neighbor’s words made her recall that her in-laws were so unfair to her. A feeling of resentment welled up in her heart again.
Thinking of that, Minghui got up and opened a book. God’s words say, “In every step of work that God does within people, externally it appears to be interactions between people, as if born of human arrangements, or from human interference. But behind the scenes, every step of work, and everything that happens, is a wager made by Satan before God, and requires people to stand firm in their testimony to God” (“Only Loving God Is Truly Believing in God”). God’s words woke her up again. The thing that happened today was a spiritual war. If she couldn’t live by God’s words but still fought for profit, she would be drawn into family dispute again. Minghui saw through Satan’s scheme according to God’s words. She prayed to God, asking Him to give her strength and confidence, so that she could live out normal humanity, no more contend for profit and be petty.
After praying, Minghui read a passage of fellowship, “To coexist normally with other people, there should be several principles for us to practice: We should not only be content with not taking unfair advantage of others or entrapping others, but should also have a loving heart, conscience and reason. And we should be able to pardon each other, help each other, and care about others, benefiting others in all things. We should be able to think about others instead of only ourselves and, moreover be able to sympathize with others’ weakness and forgive the transgressions of other people. Only by holding fast to these principles, can we establish a proper relationship with others and get along harmoniously with them.” After reading the fellowship, Minghui was clear in her heart: I have already gained the blessings of God. I have my own house and live a comfortable life, while my in-laws are too old and the elder brother does need money to look after them. Therefore, they gave the bank card and payroll card to him. They just make a reasonable arrangement to make sure the whole family can live a normal life. So I needn’t haggle over every little thing and have greed for the little pension of my father-in-law. Living in the world, we shouldn’t only think about ourselves but the people around us. Only in this way, can we feel grounded and peaceful. With God’s care and guidance, Minghui was willing to let go of the former grudges and live out normal humanity to glorify God. Thinking in this way, Minghui felt relaxed and liberated, and tasted the enjoyment of practicing the truth and living out the word of God!
After a while, her husband told her that her mother-in-law got sick and could not walk, and asked her to go home. Minghui thought to herself: Since she cannot walk, I will have to take care of her and spend money if I’m gonna visit her. Thinking back on how her in-laws treated her in the past, there was a battle within her: go or not? Just as Minghui was hesitating, God’s words came into her mind, “In the dispositions of normal people there is no crookedness or deceitfulness, people have a normal relationship with each other, they do not stand alone, and their lives are neither mediocre nor decadent. So, too, is God exalted among all, His words permeate among man, people live in peace with one another and under the care and protection of God, the earth is filled with harmony, without the interference of Satan, and the glory of God holds the utmost importance among man” (“Interpretation of the Sixteenth Utterance”). The timely enlightenment of God’s word made her understand : Seeing we human living a miserable life in Satan’s affliction, fighting and killing each other, scheming and cheating one another to satisfy our selfish desires, God hopes we can live out normal humanity, and that we can have true care and understanding when getting along with others, so that we can live in harmony with each other and gain happiness. Minghui understood that God required her not only to have a proper relationship with family members and stop fighting, but also to live out the truth to be a normal person and take care of others with love. Living in grudge these years, she never fulfilled her filial duty to her in-laws. Now God gives her another chance to become a new person, so she should treat her mother-in-law with conscience. Thinking of these, Minghui put aside her grudges and went to look after her mother-in-law with her husband. When she lived out normal humanity, she saw God’s grace and blessings. Because of her friendly attitude, the whole family became harmonious. Seeing Minghui put aside her hatred of them, her father-in-law gladly spared a room for them to live in.
Only then did Minghui realize when she could let go of grudges, practice the truth, live out normal humanity, and show love for others, she would earn others’ respect. In this way, it will be much easier to get along with others. Minghui also deeply felt that it was too painful for her to live with Satan poisons that “Fight for every inch of land and seize every bit you can get.” Now it’s God’s salvation that has changed her life and corrected her viewpoint of Satan. Only God’s word is the truth, the principle of how to conduct ourselves, and the needs of our life; only the truth can bring truly happy life to us. Minghui feels thankful to God from the bottom of her heart. Thanks to God’s word, she has changed her point of view, learned how to be a man, let go of the grudges, and broken free from the miserable life under the domain of Satan, living a truly happy life now.
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